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I watched the new version of the KARATE KID with Jackie Chan a few days ago. I was really touched at the scene where Mr. Han (Jackie Chan), sitting in his car, was reliving the death of his child and wife from a car accident. He was in a really bad place. What I loved was when his student Dre came in with a true loving heart, and asked him what happened. At this point you can see Mr. Han had not really forgiven himself. Dre realized that, among many lessons Mr. Han taught him, "when you get knocked down you need to get back up" was the most that stuck with him. So, As Mr. Han sits at the wheel broken, Dre pulls him out of the car with two poles with loops (which they've trained with), and walks him out to the porch. Dre goes to his stance, shakes the pols, and tells his instructor he's ready to train. Mr. Han starts the drill. That was a defining moment of healing for Mr. Han.

Sometimes we all get knocked down and need someone to help us get back up. That's what Dre did. He used what Mr. Han had taught him to help him realize that he was loved and needed.

We all need to pull each other up. Remember, even the strongest people get knocked down and they need a little love to help them get back up.

Be blessed and go out and show some love to those who are hurting.

Almost everyone has seen the Karate Kid. It was and still is one of my favorite movies. The lessons it teaches are as epic as the movie itself. I often quote Mr. Miyagi when I am teaching my Martial Arts class. I know this will sound cheesy, but I get very emotional at the part when Daniel has been doing all his chores and gets really angry. (I wish they wouldn't have used the language that they did for that one scene) but to see Daniel's face when he truly realizes that he had been learning karate through doing all those chores. It is one of the most powerful scenes in the movie! I bet all of us have been searching for a mentor like him. I never found one person who could be that for me. I did find many people in my life who helped me become the man I am today. I also learned that life is a journey, and the bumps in the road that we hit taught us many things. Sometimes in life we need to fail, to push us to another level. So I will leave you with a great quote from Mr. Miyagi:

"Always BREATH. Very important!"

No matter what comes at us, we need to breath and stay focused! If we panic, everything could fall apart. Let's keep breathing and take one day at a time.

Be blessed!!
Tom Hogue
Self Defense 4U

Ethics/ Definition

Moral principles that govern a person's behavior or the conducting of an activity.

Ethics should be the cornerstone of our society. I have seen a major decline in ethics on many levels, such as what's on TV and movies, song lyrics, and politics. How students act in school, public, and college campuses seem to have gone crazy at times. It's like Ethics have gone out the window and it seems many people are okay with that.

As a Martial Arts instructor I struggle with seeing this because this is what I teach on a daily basis.The two most important rules in my school are Respect and Self Discipline. Without these rules it's pretty hard to function in this world. These two rules govern Ethics. Here is how I explain Respect to my students. Looking people in the eye, Listening to what they are saying, and Having a good attitude toward what that person said even if I don't like what they said. Self discipline is you doing the right thing without being told to do it.

Parents, one of the most important thing you teach your children when they are old enough to understand is the difference between right and wrong. I see people everyday do things that they should know are wrong, but they openly do it anyway.

In our school when someone makes up their own rules, I respectfully give them a warning. The second time, I discipline them with something small. The third time, we sit down after class and talk about what they did and how they should act. Then I will discipline them with extra work at home, ask their parents to take something the child likes away, or give them an exercise that will challenge the mind and body, so they understand what they did was wrong. Discipline is not a bad word, and it does not mean violence. It's a reminder that you don't do what you want whenever you want. We all have rules to follow and if we don't, there are consequences. Let's make this world a better place by teaching the future leaders of our country (Children) the meaning of Ethics, and if we don't follow rules there are always consequences.

Tom Hogue

Self Defense 4U


Let me tell you about Jeremiah Cambra
He has been doing so great!
This is what sets him apart and how they did it.
Jeremiah has been at Self Defense 4U for about 6 months. He was very shy, but had a lot of energy. His focus and self discipline has really improved and he just got his purple belt a month ago and has moved into the Advanced class. He has really made big improvements. The one that sticks out to me was a few weeks ago when he told his dad that he wasn’t ready for his last test.He came to class anyways and practiced, but didn’t want to test. That is a very big and mature decision for a 7 year old to make. I was very proud of him. Let give some great comments cheering Jeremiah on!


Prove Me Wrong.

You are wondering why I would use this as my title. I dare to say, Martial Arts is for everyone!

Now let me back up my statement. Does every human being deserve the right to defend themselves? YES! That should be enough, but I will give you the long list and you can tell me if I am wrong.

This is why everyone needs Martial Arts.

1. Respect

2. Self Discipline

3. Focus


5. Self Defense

6. Get in shape or weight loss

7. Persaverance

8. Make friends (life long friends)

9. Think on their feet

10. Helps brain activity

11. Positive  attitude

12. Teaches integrity

I could go on and on. My point is, people make excuses for things they don't think are important, but I truly believe everyone needs martial arts to gain all of the above reason. If you you have never trained in martial arts, now is a great time to start.

Tom Hogue

Self Defense 4U

important martial arts aspectsIf you have ever trained in Martial Arts, you know there are so many things to learn. The late great Bruce Lee said: "be like water." What did he mean by that? He meant, be fluid and move. Foot work and movement are the most important things you need to learn as a beginner in Martial Arts. Foot work and movement are the least exciting drills to most people. If you can drill it in to your mind and body you will become a great martial artist.

Most people's excuses in not training in Martial Arts are, "I'm too slow, I'm out of shape, I'm not strong enough, and I'm not coordinated enough." Martial arts can help develop strength, coordination, and speed. The thing is these attributes fade the older you get. That's when tactics and movement are your best friends. By using foot work and tactics, older and slower people can defend themselves against a bigger, faster, and stronger attacker.

If you've ever been interested in Martial Arts, there is no time like the present to try.

Tom Hogue

Self Defense 4U

Happy New year!

Like millions of people around the world. We are all setting new resolutions. Is this just a waste of time??

NO. I truly believe we need to set new goals each year and look at our goals from last year to see how we did. The problem is people get an idea to a goal but don’t follow through to reach it. So I am going to give you the secret to achieving your goal.

Lets choose the most common thing people set a goal on is to lose weight and get in shape. They join the gym or go to a weight lose program and start. Everyone usually starts out good the 1st week or even month. Then… life happens. As we stagger and stumble to get our balance, we tumble over and just say this doesn’t work. Weather you go to the gym or join a weight lose program the ONE and MOST IMPORTANT thing people are missing is ACCOUNTABILITY TO SOMEONE ELSE. This is truly a major key to success.

martial arts healthy dietSo how do I get motivated??

  1. Choose a goal you want to reach
  2. Have a short term goal and your ultimate long term goal.
  3. Commit to your goal with someone that will truly keep you accountable (without this you will quit).
  4. Take day by day to reach your short turn goal (don’t stress yourself out about it).
  5. You are going to have bad days. It’s okay!!!! Talk to the person you are accountable to.
  6. Share with others your goals and success and failures (you will find other people truly understand and you might motivate someone else).
  8. ACHIEVE YOUR GOAL ( then set more goals don’t stop).

Every month our students have to memorize one of our creeds. This month is creed #3


This week I would like to talk about abuse. I especially teach my students, children and teens, that words can be just as abusive as physical abuse. If your parents tell you to do something and your child lashes out with mean or violent words, this is Abuse. Everything starts with a small spark. Parents, if you let your children use the wrong tone with you, they will naturally move to the next level, talking back to you with an attitude. Sometimes you can sit them down and let them know that their attitude is not appropriate. If you let it go, it will continue, it will grow into something you can’t stop. Parents, there comes a time in your life with your child when you will draw a line and your child will intentionally cross it to see what you will do. That’s the most important moment. If you let it go because you’re tired or just don’t feel like dealing with it, it will turn into a verbal abuse and possibly physical abuse. Maybe not with you, but someone else. Take each trial from your child to sit down and discuss how they should act and what you expect. Do it with love but be firm. Discipline when it is necessary.

We can’t let verbal or physical abuse become something children see normal in their lives. Remember, when your child makes a mistake they learn a lot from your reactions.

Tom Hogue
Self Defense 4U

Making a connection with your child...

One of the most important thing that you as a parents can do is to establish a connection with your child. In fact, children need connection more than anything else. What do I mean by connection? It’s having a relationship with your child. Not being their best friend but rather having real conversations with them to have shared emotions and interests.
Here are a several ways that you can begin to build a great connection with your child:

Interacting Daily

daily interaction with your child1. Every day make it a point to have one-on-one time with your child. Instead of asking a question from across the room, take the time to walk to your child, get down on their level, give them a hug, and ask the question. Chances are they will engage right away (instead of ignoring you) and answer you because you have made that personal connection.

2. Connect with your child as many times per day as you can. Every positive connection with your child means fewer disconnected or frustrating moments for both of you. Even if you need to correct your child about something, learn about the difference between discipline and punishment.

3. Start positive connections when your children are young. The more positive connections you make in their early years, the better they will respond and communicate as they get older. Over the years they will have a strong enough connection with you that you no longer need to be right in front of them for them to answer your question.

4. Reduce stressful interactions. Good connections reduce stress or cortisol, which is the stress hormone. If you get upset with your child, it makes them upset, too. By improving your connections daily, you begin to eliminate some of the obstacles in your communication with them which also eliminates stressful interactions.

Boost their Neurotransmitters!

You can “up” your child’s neurotransmitters to build a better parent-child connection, which means improving your relationship with your child by giving them positive reinforcement in a variety of ways that will allow them to thrive, feel happy, and be healthy.

martial arts connection1. Tell your child about something that is going to happen that is exciting, so they can look forward to it. This improves the neurotransmitter Dopamine which is the anticipation chemical.

2. Hug your child and let them know they are important. Oxytocin is the chemical that reacts through touching.

3. Give your child praise for good behavior or a job well done. This improves Serotonin which is about feeling satisfied.
This family stays connected by training together!

4. Finally, give your child the chance to run and play or engage in a fun physical activity, especially when they are stressed or feel anxiety. Endorphins are engaged through active movement. Of course, at Self Defense 4U Martial Arts, we think karate is a GREAT physical activity!

If you are interested in learning about how you and your whole family can connect at Self Defense 4U Martial Arts, give us a call.

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This November, our word of the month in my martial arts school is Gratitude. We, in the United States, have one day a year (Thanksgiving) celebrating gratefulness, being thankful for our blessings and way of life. I am teaching this month that we should be thankful every day. Think of all the wonderful things we have. Our homes, cars, money, jobs, food, clothing, and so many different things. I have traveled to other countries (my wife Alex is from Romania, a former communist country. She has a story to tell!) and have seen first hand how blessed we truly are in America. All I am asking my students is to truly look around and be Grateful to their parents for everything their parents give them. So this Thanksgiving season, let’s all just look around and see how blessed we are.

Mr. Tom
Self Defense 4U

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