Making a connection with your child...
One of the most important thing that you as a parents can do is to establish a connection with your child. In fact, children need connection more than anything else. What do I mean by connection? It’s having a relationship with your child. Not being their best friend but rather having real conversations with them to have shared emotions and interests.
Here are a several ways that you can begin to build a great connection with your child:
1. Every day make it a point to have one-on-one time with your child. Instead of asking a question from across the room, take the time to walk to your child, get down on their level, give them a hug, and ask the question. Chances are they will engage right away (instead of ignoring you) and answer you because you have made that personal connection.
2. Connect with your child as many times per day as you can. Every positive connection with your child means fewer disconnected or frustrating moments for both of you. Even if you need to correct your child about something, learn about the difference between discipline and punishment.
3. Start positive connections when your children are young. The more positive connections you make in their early years, the better they will respond and communicate as they get older. Over the years they will have a strong enough connection with you that you no longer need to be right in front of them for them to answer your question.
4. Reduce stressful interactions. Good connections reduce stress or cortisol, which is the stress hormone. If you get upset with your child, it makes them upset, too. By improving your connections daily, you begin to eliminate some of the obstacles in your communication with them which also eliminates stressful interactions.
Boost their Neurotransmitters!
You can “up” your child’s neurotransmitters to build a better parent-child connection, which means improving your relationship with your child by giving them positive reinforcement in a variety of ways that will allow them to thrive, feel happy, and be healthy.
1. Tell your child about something that is going to happen that is exciting, so they can look forward to it. This improves the neurotransmitter Dopamine which is the anticipation chemical.
2. Hug your child and let them know they are important. Oxytocin is the chemical that reacts through touching.
3. Give your child praise for good behavior or a job well done. This improves Serotonin which is about feeling satisfied.
This family stays connected by training together!
4. Finally, give your child the chance to run and play or engage in a fun physical activity, especially when they are stressed or feel anxiety. Endorphins are engaged through active movement. Of course, at Self Defense 4U Martial Arts, we think karate is a GREAT physical activity!
If you are interested in learning about how you and your whole family can connect at Self Defense 4U Martial Arts, give us a call.
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